Cint, hang in there. I lost my wife of 55 years six years ago, and at first it was just a fog of living day to day, but then it dawned on me that she is at rest, opening up new opportunities for me to be myself, to enjoy what is ahead not what is past. Now, I have times I am down, but I understand that the past will always be there, but …
Cint, hang in there. I lost my wife of 55 years six years ago, and at first it was just a fog of living day to day, but then it dawned on me that she is at rest, opening up new opportunities for me to be myself, to enjoy what is ahead not what is past. Now, I have times I am down, but I understand that the past will always be there, but the past is the past. I cannot change it. I have a new life now, open at last to the fact I am actually gay, not bisexual. When feelings toward men arise, I no longer try to hide those feelings, and because of my age, I just enjoy them mentally. I too have lost friends in the last few years, and it is really hard because I miss them, but I realize these are precious memories that are part of me, not the current reality. Please do not interpret what I have written as negative view of what you are going through. It just takes time to reestablish your life and that takes patience. We are there for you.
Hey Allen, I got married to a woman back in 1966 when it just didn't dawn on me that there were options. We were both virgins and, thanks to a copy of "The Perfumed Gardens" she and I figured out how to have sex with some fun - even while lacking any real physical attraction. I came out when our son was 5 and even tried a thruple with my first lover. Nope. She is still alive and we celebrated what would have been our 50th in 2016 - next year it will be 60 if we're both still around. We still love one another and spend time with our kids and grands together. Interesting, but while I've lost three lovers to death, life still goes on. I'm now married to my lover/husband of some 20 years and still grieve but cherish the love that I've had with all of them AND my former wife and I will miss her, too, if she checks out before me. You are so right, they all remain as a part of who WE are and we are better for it.
Dennis, it is nice to know that some others had an experience that I did with a wife of many years, and I am happy that you have a husband that provides you with the companionship and enjoyment of life. I do not have a lover and at this point in my life, I just enjoy watching other men enjoy themselves with their intimacy and love.
I know I've been incredibly fortunate to have known and loved so many people. That includes the lessons of loss. I'm especially grateful to have a husband at this stage of my life. Neither of us WANTS to be alone at our age. we've even fantasized doing a "Thelma and Louise" exit but we'll see. It's just very nice to be here right now, in spite of all the drama.
While I’m big fan of “Thelma and Louise,” I’m also a fan of Dennis and his husband living lonnnnnng and prospering more! Show us “kids” how to do it. We need more role models. Cheers, love, and light!
Thank you, Allen. I definitely did not feel any negativity in your “circle of life” history and point-of-view. I’m glad you’re here, dear. I appreciate you sharing and sending words of wisdom my way. Cheers!
Cint, hang in there. I lost my wife of 55 years six years ago, and at first it was just a fog of living day to day, but then it dawned on me that she is at rest, opening up new opportunities for me to be myself, to enjoy what is ahead not what is past. Now, I have times I am down, but I understand that the past will always be there, but the past is the past. I cannot change it. I have a new life now, open at last to the fact I am actually gay, not bisexual. When feelings toward men arise, I no longer try to hide those feelings, and because of my age, I just enjoy them mentally. I too have lost friends in the last few years, and it is really hard because I miss them, but I realize these are precious memories that are part of me, not the current reality. Please do not interpret what I have written as negative view of what you are going through. It just takes time to reestablish your life and that takes patience. We are there for you.
Hey Allen, I got married to a woman back in 1966 when it just didn't dawn on me that there were options. We were both virgins and, thanks to a copy of "The Perfumed Gardens" she and I figured out how to have sex with some fun - even while lacking any real physical attraction. I came out when our son was 5 and even tried a thruple with my first lover. Nope. She is still alive and we celebrated what would have been our 50th in 2016 - next year it will be 60 if we're both still around. We still love one another and spend time with our kids and grands together. Interesting, but while I've lost three lovers to death, life still goes on. I'm now married to my lover/husband of some 20 years and still grieve but cherish the love that I've had with all of them AND my former wife and I will miss her, too, if she checks out before me. You are so right, they all remain as a part of who WE are and we are better for it.
Dennis, it is nice to know that some others had an experience that I did with a wife of many years, and I am happy that you have a husband that provides you with the companionship and enjoyment of life. I do not have a lover and at this point in my life, I just enjoy watching other men enjoy themselves with their intimacy and love.
I know I've been incredibly fortunate to have known and loved so many people. That includes the lessons of loss. I'm especially grateful to have a husband at this stage of my life. Neither of us WANTS to be alone at our age. we've even fantasized doing a "Thelma and Louise" exit but we'll see. It's just very nice to be here right now, in spite of all the drama.
While I’m big fan of “Thelma and Louise,” I’m also a fan of Dennis and his husband living lonnnnnng and prospering more! Show us “kids” how to do it. We need more role models. Cheers, love, and light!
Gents, it’s nice to know there are so many who share not only similar experiences but similar perspectives on love and respect. Thank you.
Thank you, Allen. I definitely did not feel any negativity in your “circle of life” history and point-of-view. I’m glad you’re here, dear. I appreciate you sharing and sending words of wisdom my way. Cheers!