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Dennis Dunnum's avatar

Hey Allen, I got married to a woman back in 1966 when it just didn't dawn on me that there were options. We were both virgins and, thanks to a copy of "The Perfumed Gardens" she and I figured out how to have sex with some fun - even while lacking any real physical attraction. I came out when our son was 5 and even tried a thruple with my first lover. Nope. She is still alive and we celebrated what would have been our 50th in 2016 - next year it will be 60 if we're both still around. We still love one another and spend time with our kids and grands together. Interesting, but while I've lost three lovers to death, life still goes on. I'm now married to my lover/husband of some 20 years and still grieve but cherish the love that I've had with all of them AND my former wife and I will miss her, too, if she checks out before me. You are so right, they all remain as a part of who WE are and we are better for it.

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Allen Jackson's avatar

Dennis, it is nice to know that some others had an experience that I did with a wife of many years, and I am happy that you have a husband that provides you with the companionship and enjoyment of life. I do not have a lover and at this point in my life, I just enjoy watching other men enjoy themselves with their intimacy and love.

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Dennis Dunnum's avatar

I know I've been incredibly fortunate to have known and loved so many people. That includes the lessons of loss. I'm especially grateful to have a husband at this stage of my life. Neither of us WANTS to be alone at our age. we've even fantasized doing a "Thelma and Louise" exit but we'll see. It's just very nice to be here right now, in spite of all the drama.

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Clint Collide 🌈✌️'s avatar

While I’m big fan of “Thelma and Louise,” I’m also a fan of Dennis and his husband living lonnnnnng and prospering more! Show us “kids” how to do it. We need more role models. Cheers, love, and light!

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Clint Collide 🌈✌️'s avatar

Gents, it’s nice to know there are so many who share not only similar experiences but similar perspectives on love and respect. Thank you.

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