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Tracey's avatar

I can’t begin to tally up how much I've spent on self help. I help myself these days with the help of the odd library book. This was an excellent video, thank you for sharing it

Clint Collide's avatar

Glad (I think) I’m not the only one, Miss Tracey. Cheers, my dears!

Gino Cosme's avatar

The self-help industry thrives on people’s uncertainty then sells that uncertainty back to them as “motivation.” It’s not wisdom, it’s dependency disguised as growth. The truth is, sustainable change rarely comes from a script or someone else’s morning routine. It comes from facing the messy, uncomfortable stuff that can’t be branded or monetized.

I like your distinction between a guru and a guide. Gurus promise certainty; guides create space for self-trust. That difference is everything.

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks, Gino. I appreciate the smart, heartful work and your fellow therapists do. Humanistic approaches for the win!

phil's avatar

answers: 1/moderation common sense and daily perseverence.2/SELF LIBERATION THROUGH SEEING WITH NAKED AWARENESS (pdf). MINDFULNESS IN PLAIN ENGLISH by bhante gunaratana. rx: be still close eyes listen to your breathing 20 minutes morn and eve: more if desired. this is anapanasati = breathing attention = original buddhist meditation buddha taught 2500 years ago. find a path and stick to it. keep to a 24 hour schedule of work play sleep. rest in present awareness. use sex pleasure as meditation.

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks for sharing some wisdom, Phil!

peternolan1820's avatar

Be Here Now by Ram Dass.

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks for recommendation, Peter. I’ve never read his work before. Maybe it’s time I did…

peternolan1820's avatar

And Transcendental Meditation since 1972.

Coach Kevin Martin's avatar

So, so grateful for you! Thank you for the shoutout, my dear friend!

Clint Collide's avatar

Ain’t nothing but a thang, chicken wang! Cheers and much love!

sixes's avatar

Thanks Clint and Bob Ross. 🎨🖌🖼 Brihaspati, represents the planet Jupiter in Vedic astrology. is revered as the "Guru" or "Divine Mentor," embodying wisdom, knowledge, and guidance. His mantra is often recited to align oneself with the positive energies of Jupiter, fostering intellectual development and spiritual insight. Thursday is Jupiter day, Jeudi, Jueves, Giovedì 🏳‍🌈🌈❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤

Clint Collide's avatar

I love something new almost every day thank to you, Steve. Thanks!

DougT's avatar

For once Clint I have no views on the subject.....honestly BUT the university of Hard Knocks soon sorts.......(add your own metaphor here) Cheers DougT 🇫🇴 🇬🇧

Clint Collide's avatar

It’s hard knock life for us, dear Doug! Cheers to you and the Ivory Tower

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LH6MstVxehQ

Doug Thompson's avatar

Yuppers the Ivory Tower comes in bloody handy at times 😮👍 as Annie soon found out

Waymon Hudson's avatar

Thanks for the recommendation, Clint! And you really nailed it with this article- I was also someone who looked for answers in self-help books and such. For me, it took blowing up my life and starting over (the whole “Messy Reinvention” vibe) to find what I needed.

Great article!

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks, Waymon. I’m enjoying your work and look forward to reading more. Cheers to being messy, Missy. Been there, do that. :-p

Andy Adams's avatar

Thanks for the shout, Clint! I hope you're hanging in there. Cheers.

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks, Andy. Great work as always! Cheers indeed.

Michael Horvich's avatar

Again, you hit the proverbial nail on the head (and perhaps a few other heads, I'll let you decide.)

"I don’t want to read the work of a guru. I want to read the work of a fellow traveler, someone who doesn’t pretend to have it all figured out but is willing to share what they’ve learned along the way: fumbles, stumbles, and all.

There’s a big difference between someone who’s learning with you and someone who’s preaching at you. One shares their truth; the other sells a template.

In my book, real growth isn’t about following or worshipping someone else’s wisdom. It’s about finding and trusting your own."

Fondly, Michael

Clint Collide's avatar

Thanks, Michael. I so wish I had learned these lessons without all the time, money, and energy wasted on gurus. I remember realizing how big the “self-help” section at my local bookstores were getting. Live and learn…to live another day!