Heyas Clint and Drew for yesterday's Besties day. Now I'm from the family stock of rely on no one, only rely on yourself, and boy do I get it soooo wrong at times 😲 hence my needs for a personal Ivory Tower. There no one can see when I've stuffed things up. It's a generalisation, I Know, I do have friends/close associates who I have relied upon and do seek out for advice etc when needed. However it's usually I do my own thing. As a younger lad/guy I was more amicable to friendships but that was probably(?) the nievity of youth or trying to get into someone's pants 😎 (usually Bromance style) but at the end of the day I remained true to myself. Broke hearts, many, along the way as there was always another dick to find. That's a whole different story though 😁 and I realised the point when I reverted to the rely on no one except yourself moment happened. As we can't turn back time welllll no use crying over spilt milk is there. As I've said to you before I live my life on my own terms now. I'm independent, loyal to those it concerns, and don't let/allow others needyness impinge on me. Basically I'm a heartless bastard if even others don't see it in me 😲 well Clint, Cheers DougT 🇫🇴🇬🇧
Sending big hugs, dear Doug. Drew and I are similarly of the “rely on yourself” pov. Though after 30 years of friendship, he’s one of the few people I feel like I can truly rely on. Keep keeping on and be as amicable or not as you wanna. You’ve got a friend in me—like it or not—Doug. Cheers!
And similarly you've a friend in me too like in Toy Story 4 by Randy Newman. Nowww I've only just seen the full film and boy, oh boy what a mature ending film that Is. Woody finally gets his gal and sets sail off into the sunset together. NO further film needed, the ring is complete now. Period. Even they didn't try to drag Jessie into a 3way return. Cheers DougT
I didn't know such a day exists! I have to say, I've had many really good friends, some have called ME their best friend even when I didn't feel it. I find the whole concept hard to commit to. I often feel disappointed by people (and I in turn probably disappoint them) so it's hard for me to truly say someone is my BEST friend. Of course I'd have to say that my husband of 36 years, Frank, would have to really be that person in my life.
Thanks for your friendship, Clint. I got an unexpected kiss today, and words of love, and I didn't even know why. I thought it was just for Pride. My oldest brother was a member of the Frank Lloyd Wright Conservancy, in Oak Park. Five Plays comedies and tragedies by Federico Garcia-Lorca from the library today. Irish Granny Helen had annual family visitors from Ireland recently. They told her they're not coming back to America again. Helen had trouble when she came back here last time but was unlucky enough not to be deported.
You guys are so lucky. I do not know the meaning of friend, nor I do understand the concept. Being a truck driver, I am very transient and cover a lot of distance, so I'm always on the move with no time to slow down. While I know so many people all over planet earth, and so many people know me, none of these connections would I call "friendships". Just casual acquaintances who I either see a lot of, or very little if at all. I've only had a single short-lived relationship back in the late 80's prior to his passing of AIDS. I've been alone ever since. My only daily contact with people is through a windshield, a rearview mirror, or pushing my way through a crowd. I have learned through many trials, it is best to keep a low profile and keep my mouth shut as I am not very good at conversation and usually manage to fluff that up at every turn. This mostly stems from my childhood where if I uttered a word, my parents would beat me senseless until I was black 'n blue. The physical and emotional scars are deep and something I never outgrew. As an adult, I've learned to isolate myself from others, so I don't have to speak and embarrass myself, even here at the campground, I keep silent and to myself and only engage when prompted to. That is why I work on all their golf carts when I'm not on the road, because it keeps me functional for a purpose without imposing myself on others. When guys here at the campground try to get close to me, it's not because they want to be around me but rather because they want something ie; working on their golf carts, fixing something on their RV trailers, or help to do something else. So while I am not wanted, I am needed, because I help make the world go round.
Dear Jim...I know we only know each other through the lens of the internet, but I do consider you a friendly voice in a not-so-friendly world. So thank you.
I do count myself very lucky to have a handful of close friends who have stuck with me through more bs than they deserve.
As an only child, I didn't really grow up knowing how to be a friend. Friendly, yes. Friend, not so much. So...please don't think it comes naturally to everyone.
I'm willing to bet more people consider you a friend than you'll ever imagine. I'm sure you do much more than "just" help others make their worlds go round. (For those of us who have zero mechanical abilities, a friendly helper who doesn't make me feel dumb for not knowing is always a friend in my book. And I do my best not abuse those relationships and make them as balanced as possible.)
From everything I know about you, Jim, you are a kind, gentle man with many tales and talents. Please use some of that kindness on yourself and be open to letting others be your friend and help you in return...by loving you.
Vulnerability is a mfer, but it's worth it in my book. I vanished from the world for several years and am truly fortunate people like Drew waited for me to emerge (after I pushed him oh so far away).
I will say that not everyone's meant to be a forever friend (much less lover). Some are made for a reason or a season--but I cherish all who've been around "for good."
Heyas Clint and Drew for yesterday's Besties day. Now I'm from the family stock of rely on no one, only rely on yourself, and boy do I get it soooo wrong at times 😲 hence my needs for a personal Ivory Tower. There no one can see when I've stuffed things up. It's a generalisation, I Know, I do have friends/close associates who I have relied upon and do seek out for advice etc when needed. However it's usually I do my own thing. As a younger lad/guy I was more amicable to friendships but that was probably(?) the nievity of youth or trying to get into someone's pants 😎 (usually Bromance style) but at the end of the day I remained true to myself. Broke hearts, many, along the way as there was always another dick to find. That's a whole different story though 😁 and I realised the point when I reverted to the rely on no one except yourself moment happened. As we can't turn back time welllll no use crying over spilt milk is there. As I've said to you before I live my life on my own terms now. I'm independent, loyal to those it concerns, and don't let/allow others needyness impinge on me. Basically I'm a heartless bastard if even others don't see it in me 😲 well Clint, Cheers DougT 🇫🇴🇬🇧
Sending big hugs, dear Doug. Drew and I are similarly of the “rely on yourself” pov. Though after 30 years of friendship, he’s one of the few people I feel like I can truly rely on. Keep keeping on and be as amicable or not as you wanna. You’ve got a friend in me—like it or not—Doug. Cheers!
And similarly you've a friend in me too like in Toy Story 4 by Randy Newman. Nowww I've only just seen the full film and boy, oh boy what a mature ending film that Is. Woody finally gets his gal and sets sail off into the sunset together. NO further film needed, the ring is complete now. Period. Even they didn't try to drag Jessie into a 3way return. Cheers DougT
I didn't know such a day exists! I have to say, I've had many really good friends, some have called ME their best friend even when I didn't feel it. I find the whole concept hard to commit to. I often feel disappointed by people (and I in turn probably disappoint them) so it's hard for me to truly say someone is my BEST friend. Of course I'd have to say that my husband of 36 years, Frank, would have to really be that person in my life.
Ours is only 33 years, but comparable. We are not clinging vines, and we are not
the fulfillment of each other's dreams; but we have enrichened each others' lives and
proven that we are there to help each other where really needed. We, too, are best
friends. I am very happy for you both.
Go, Sam, go! Your friendship has 3 years on mine and Drew’s. Amazing how time flies when you’re busy (mostly) laughing. Cheers!
Thanks for your friendship, Clint. I got an unexpected kiss today, and words of love, and I didn't even know why. I thought it was just for Pride. My oldest brother was a member of the Frank Lloyd Wright Conservancy, in Oak Park. Five Plays comedies and tragedies by Federico Garcia-Lorca from the library today. Irish Granny Helen had annual family visitors from Ireland recently. They told her they're not coming back to America again. Helen had trouble when she came back here last time but was unlucky enough not to be deported.
You guys are so lucky. I do not know the meaning of friend, nor I do understand the concept. Being a truck driver, I am very transient and cover a lot of distance, so I'm always on the move with no time to slow down. While I know so many people all over planet earth, and so many people know me, none of these connections would I call "friendships". Just casual acquaintances who I either see a lot of, or very little if at all. I've only had a single short-lived relationship back in the late 80's prior to his passing of AIDS. I've been alone ever since. My only daily contact with people is through a windshield, a rearview mirror, or pushing my way through a crowd. I have learned through many trials, it is best to keep a low profile and keep my mouth shut as I am not very good at conversation and usually manage to fluff that up at every turn. This mostly stems from my childhood where if I uttered a word, my parents would beat me senseless until I was black 'n blue. The physical and emotional scars are deep and something I never outgrew. As an adult, I've learned to isolate myself from others, so I don't have to speak and embarrass myself, even here at the campground, I keep silent and to myself and only engage when prompted to. That is why I work on all their golf carts when I'm not on the road, because it keeps me functional for a purpose without imposing myself on others. When guys here at the campground try to get close to me, it's not because they want to be around me but rather because they want something ie; working on their golf carts, fixing something on their RV trailers, or help to do something else. So while I am not wanted, I am needed, because I help make the world go round.
Dear Jim...I know we only know each other through the lens of the internet, but I do consider you a friendly voice in a not-so-friendly world. So thank you.
I do count myself very lucky to have a handful of close friends who have stuck with me through more bs than they deserve.
As an only child, I didn't really grow up knowing how to be a friend. Friendly, yes. Friend, not so much. So...please don't think it comes naturally to everyone.
I'm willing to bet more people consider you a friend than you'll ever imagine. I'm sure you do much more than "just" help others make their worlds go round. (For those of us who have zero mechanical abilities, a friendly helper who doesn't make me feel dumb for not knowing is always a friend in my book. And I do my best not abuse those relationships and make them as balanced as possible.)
From everything I know about you, Jim, you are a kind, gentle man with many tales and talents. Please use some of that kindness on yourself and be open to letting others be your friend and help you in return...by loving you.
Vulnerability is a mfer, but it's worth it in my book. I vanished from the world for several years and am truly fortunate people like Drew waited for me to emerge (after I pushed him oh so far away).
I will say that not everyone's meant to be a forever friend (much less lover). Some are made for a reason or a season--but I cherish all who've been around "for good."
Thank you for being a friend and sharing,
Clint 🌈✌️
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZ0pXUb5jVU
Friends really are so important - Happy BF Day to you and Drew :)
Thank you, dear MTF! You're one of my Substack BFFs...like it or not. :-p
Mwah! 😘