I'm just slightly younger than you, Anton, but it's puzzling to me too. The pendulum swing of history from tender masculinity to toxic masculinity (including the "no homo" bater bros now so common on Xitter they're a parody of themselves imo) seems on the verge of swinging back to tender masculinity. I think. I hope. :-)
I'm just slightly younger than you, Anton, but it's puzzling to me too. The pendulum swing of history from tender masculinity to toxic masculinity (including the "no homo" bater bros now so common on Xitter they're a parody of themselves imo) seems on the verge of swinging back to tender masculinity. I think. I hope. :-)
Personally I don't see a conflict between being a 'bator bro' and having romantic interest solely in women. There were some cultures (before western religion corrupted them) in which it was thought unusual for a single/widowed man NOT to have sex with his same-age friends. The thinking was 'how else is a guy supposed to stay calm and logical?'
I think we'll see this trend grow as dating has become more expensive and more difficult for young men. The difficulties of dating has moved out of the 'manosphere' and into mainstream media. Apparently several peer reviewed studies have been done which show that roughly 75% of women are only interested in the 'top' 25% of men and ignore the rest.
To approach it from another angle, google or do a YT search for 'straight guys/men gay sex'.
To your point, I agree. I think the pendulum has started swinging away from 'toxic' to 'tender' masculinity.
I'm just slightly younger than you, Anton, but it's puzzling to me too. The pendulum swing of history from tender masculinity to toxic masculinity (including the "no homo" bater bros now so common on Xitter they're a parody of themselves imo) seems on the verge of swinging back to tender masculinity. I think. I hope. :-)
Personally I don't see a conflict between being a 'bator bro' and having romantic interest solely in women. There were some cultures (before western religion corrupted them) in which it was thought unusual for a single/widowed man NOT to have sex with his same-age friends. The thinking was 'how else is a guy supposed to stay calm and logical?'
I think we'll see this trend grow as dating has become more expensive and more difficult for young men. The difficulties of dating has moved out of the 'manosphere' and into mainstream media. Apparently several peer reviewed studies have been done which show that roughly 75% of women are only interested in the 'top' 25% of men and ignore the rest.
To approach it from another angle, google or do a YT search for 'straight guys/men gay sex'.
To your point, I agree. I think the pendulum has started swinging away from 'toxic' to 'tender' masculinity.