You too? I've had people hate me on sight quite a bit over the years. What's funny is that it frequently happens BEFORE we have any interaction. I've no idea why myself, but a few friends and coworkers have suggested the same thing: I test out two standard deviations below the mean on a few psych traits and the people who hate me on sigh…
You too? I've had people hate me on sight quite a bit over the years. What's funny is that it frequently happens BEFORE we have any interaction. I've no idea why myself, but a few friends and coworkers have suggested the same thing: I test out two standard deviations below the mean on a few psych traits and the people who hate me on sight tend to present as very high in those traits. Weirder still, the hatred is personal and visceral. They act as if my mere presence is an unprovoked attack of some kind. It's very odd.
Oh, yeah. I’ve had it happen to me and do it myself. Only occasionally do I get the “nope” vibes about someone, but when I do, I tend to go with my instincts. I TRY to keep this Dolly Parton quote in mind…but admit I’m a ways off from living up to her example:
“When I meet someone, I look at their eyes and their smile and seek out the good first - it's easy to find when you're looking for it. You let a person shine with their own light and try to connect it to yours. As soon as I say hello, I go right to that light and I don't care who you are! I know we're all pieces of the same thing - I go for that common light because I know it's in all of us.”
Yes, it happens. I don't know your "deviation from the norm" but it definitely happens. I'm a non-extravert by a considerable margin, among other things. Apparently this is a threat to some people.
You too? I've had people hate me on sight quite a bit over the years. What's funny is that it frequently happens BEFORE we have any interaction. I've no idea why myself, but a few friends and coworkers have suggested the same thing: I test out two standard deviations below the mean on a few psych traits and the people who hate me on sight tend to present as very high in those traits. Weirder still, the hatred is personal and visceral. They act as if my mere presence is an unprovoked attack of some kind. It's very odd.
Oh, yeah. I’ve had it happen to me and do it myself. Only occasionally do I get the “nope” vibes about someone, but when I do, I tend to go with my instincts. I TRY to keep this Dolly Parton quote in mind…but admit I’m a ways off from living up to her example:
“When I meet someone, I look at their eyes and their smile and seek out the good first - it's easy to find when you're looking for it. You let a person shine with their own light and try to connect it to yours. As soon as I say hello, I go right to that light and I don't care who you are! I know we're all pieces of the same thing - I go for that common light because I know it's in all of us.”
Yes, it happens. I don't know your "deviation from the norm" but it definitely happens. I'm a non-extravert by a considerable margin, among other things. Apparently this is a threat to some people.