
Once upon a time, I looked forward to the holiday season.
The days and weeks between Thanksgiving and Christmas were nothing short of magicalāfilled with cards, carols, lights, specials, and, yes, visions of sugarplums dancing in my head.
Everything felt like it glittered. Even everyday moments seemed special.
But a few years ago, that holiday glow faded for me.
And Iāve been doing my best to rekindle it ever since.
Long story short, I lost several of the most important and influential people in my life within a few months. It sucked then. And it still sucks now.
The holidays havenāt felt the same since. Iām not sure they ever will. But I continue to try my best and hold out hope that the silver bellsāand silver liningsāwill come back sooner than later.
I know Iām not alone in being a wee ennui around the holidays.
For more than a few, the holiday season is a bittersweet reminder of what or who weāre missing. It can be a time of loneliness, stress, and/or unmet expectations.
The āmost wonderful time of the yearā doesnāt feel so wonderful when distance, grief, and/or reality dims its glow.
I donāt mean to be a bummer. If youāre happyāand you know itāIām cheering and clapping you on. But I would like to gently remind everyone: please be as kind and loving to yourself and those around you as possible.
After putting on your oxygen mask first, maybe check in on your nears, dears, and queers. Extend grace to the people you know and even those you donātāthey might be carrying a load of coal on their backs or shoulders.
Whenever you can, keep the magical spirit of the holidaysāthe gifts of gratitude and hopeāalive and well.
Iām doing my best to create and curate more of that spirit too.
Some days, it feels like work.
On other days, it feels like a gift.
Either way, itās worth trying.
Wishing you much love and peace this seasonā¦and always.
Clint
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BIRTHDAYS
1815 = Ada Lovelace = English mathematician and computer scientist
1830 = Emily Dickinson = American poet š
1851 = Melvil Dewey = American librarian and Dewey Decimal System creator
1909 = Hermes Pan = American dancer and choreographer
1914 = Dorothy Lamour = American actor and singer
1922 = Agnes Nixon = American tv writer and All My Children creator
1941 = Tommy Kirk = American actor and businessman š
1952 = Susan Dey = American actor
1957 = Michael Clarke Duncan = American actor
1960 = Kenneth Branagh = British actor and filmmaker
1960 = Mark Takano = American politician š
1961 = Nia Peeples = American singer and actor
1965 = Greg Giraldo = American lawyer and comedian
1985 = Raven-SymonĆ© = American actor and singer š
HOLIDAYS + OBSERVANCES
EVENTS
1768 = The first edition of the EncyclopƦdia Britannica is published.
1901 = The first Nobel Prize ceremony is held in Stockholm on the fifth anniversary of Alfred Nobel's death.
1909 = Selma Lagerlƶf becomes the first female writer to receive the Nobel Prize in Literature.
1924 = Henry Gerber, a German-born immigrant, receives a charter from the state of Illinois for a nonprofit corporation named the Society for Human Rights. Itās the earliest documented gay rights organization in the US.
1936 = āAbdication Crisisā = Edward VIII signs the Instrument of Abdication.
1948 = The Human Rights Convention is signed by the United Nations.
1953 = Winston Churchill receives the Nobel Prize in Literature.
1968 = Japan's biggest heist, the still-unsolved "300 million yen robbery", is carried out in Tokyo.
1993 = Sister Act 2: Back in the Habit is released in theaters.
1999 = The Green Mile is released in theaters.
PHOTO + QUOTE OF THE DAY
āLighten up, just enjoy life, smile more, laugh more, and don't get so worked up about things.ā
Kenneth Branagh
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My adult son who is now 30 lost his mother at this Holiday time 15 years ago. It happened at Thanksgiving. No Christmas spirit that year for sure. But the following year, neither he nor I were inclined. Neither of us is now. We have a loving relationship and reciprocally one of the most important figures in one another's lives. We don't have the trimmings and ersatz socializing we had those 16 years ago; however, what we do have is more precious and significant to me than any of that ever was. That is my perspective on it, and I enjoy it as it has evolved and come to be. Thank you, Clint, for giving me an opportunity for such reflection and introspection.
I'm not sure when the change happened, but at some point maybe 15 -ish years ago I realized my excitement for the holidays was a result of being able to get off the treadmill. And there was a marked drop in the number of people dunning* me. I'd get a chance catch up on sleep, etc.
*Philosophical question: Can you still use the verb 'dun' if the peeple hassling you don't want money? I'm dunned for my energy, attention, and time.