I tend to see most people as wounded or damaged children (I can see my own wounded Inner Children, too, and I see how many of them have grown stronger and healthier since childhood). The parenthesis applies to others as well as myself. Unfortunately, many people have not healed enough or grown much since their early years.
Most of my life has been dedicated to helping people to heal and grow. In order to avoid being overwhelmed, I have tended to isolate myself when not "at work". I have learnt ways to tone down my intuition, empathy and my psychic sensitivity. To insulate myself.
This often means that I do not want to be around people. I switch off. When I was working as a therapist, I would spend holidays not speaking to anyone - except for ordering a meal, a drink, "where is..?", "Nice weather", "Hello/Goodbye" and "thank you".
I think that I couild enjoy a cruise nowadays. I could be sociable, as long as I could avoid people who were sucking me dry with their childlike needs. Similarly, with internet media. I very rarely make a comment and I have chosen to ignore those hurting and hurtful kids that want to be angry that I do not kiss their grazed knees better. Largely because I can't kiss them better because they always pick at their scabs to make them bleed again.
Good question. I am sociable with a handful of ex-pats. I would be prepared to call a couple of women "friends" (one British and the other Argentinian). My Thai is not good enough to respond therapeutically with Thais. I can have superficial friendly conversations, when in the mood, with Thais that meet me as a stranger. I have friendships with Thais with whom we can chat in a mix of Thai and English.
Oh, I get you, Uncle Ray. I spent my social batteries yesterday and have spent most of the day in silence. It’s been wonderful. As for scab scratchers, I tend to huff and puff to keep them away from me and those I love. I don’t want to extend the energy to blow their houses of cards down, but I have been known to when needed. Hence my need to be quiet and reclusive at times. Hugs, Uncle Ray!
Now Brian as you know my brother and SIL enjoy their cruising life, either on their own or with assorted family and friends tagging along. Now, me, I'm too anti social to share my space/Ivory Floating Tower and especially at sea where you can't escape the huddled masses 🤨 (but secretly probably could try it once in my life-after all I'm a Gemini) Bro always find a hide away spot when SIL is wanting answers 😁 Cheers DougT🏴 🇬🇧
Oh, there’s always plenty of hide away places (and people) on every cruise I’ve ever been on. And lots of anti-social people you can be social or not with. I’m a fan of cruising and recommend it to anyone up for some low-key travel. Cheers!🍻
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I tend to see most people as wounded or damaged children (I can see my own wounded Inner Children, too, and I see how many of them have grown stronger and healthier since childhood). The parenthesis applies to others as well as myself. Unfortunately, many people have not healed enough or grown much since their early years.
Most of my life has been dedicated to helping people to heal and grow. In order to avoid being overwhelmed, I have tended to isolate myself when not "at work". I have learnt ways to tone down my intuition, empathy and my psychic sensitivity. To insulate myself.
This often means that I do not want to be around people. I switch off. When I was working as a therapist, I would spend holidays not speaking to anyone - except for ordering a meal, a drink, "where is..?", "Nice weather", "Hello/Goodbye" and "thank you".
I think that I couild enjoy a cruise nowadays. I could be sociable, as long as I could avoid people who were sucking me dry with their childlike needs. Similarly, with internet media. I very rarely make a comment and I have chosen to ignore those hurting and hurtful kids that want to be angry that I do not kiss their grazed knees better. Largely because I can't kiss them better because they always pick at their scabs to make them bleed again.
Ray a well written out snap shot of your ideals for life. It helps, living where you do(?) Love long and prosper. Cheers DougT
Good question. I am sociable with a handful of ex-pats. I would be prepared to call a couple of women "friends" (one British and the other Argentinian). My Thai is not good enough to respond therapeutically with Thais. I can have superficial friendly conversations, when in the mood, with Thais that meet me as a stranger. I have friendships with Thais with whom we can chat in a mix of Thai and English.
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Oh, I get you, Uncle Ray. I spent my social batteries yesterday and have spent most of the day in silence. It’s been wonderful. As for scab scratchers, I tend to huff and puff to keep them away from me and those I love. I don’t want to extend the energy to blow their houses of cards down, but I have been known to when needed. Hence my need to be quiet and reclusive at times. Hugs, Uncle Ray!
Hugs, in return. Far from being identical, we are quite similar in many ways. Enjoy your trip, dear.
LOVE IS LOVE IN ANY LANGUAGE!
Amen to that, Pepper! Halleloo too. 🌈✌️
Now Brian as you know my brother and SIL enjoy their cruising life, either on their own or with assorted family and friends tagging along. Now, me, I'm too anti social to share my space/Ivory Floating Tower and especially at sea where you can't escape the huddled masses 🤨 (but secretly probably could try it once in my life-after all I'm a Gemini) Bro always find a hide away spot when SIL is wanting answers 😁 Cheers DougT🏴 🇬🇧
I regard myself as asocial (an otrovert, as much as or even more than an introvert) rather than antisocial. I am a Gemini, too.
Cheers Ray, we Geminis get everywhere 😁 Cheers DougT
Twin twins? No wonder this Leo loves you both so much. ❤️🌈
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Long live the Twins. (The mortal one and the spiritual one). Pollux shared his immortality with Castor.
Oh, there’s always plenty of hide away places (and people) on every cruise I’ve ever been on. And lots of anti-social people you can be social or not with. I’m a fan of cruising and recommend it to anyone up for some low-key travel. Cheers!🍻
Clint, Love being on the sea with you. Fondly, Michael